We get so busy living in the past, days of better times, moments of absolutely happiness that we miss out on what's right in front of us. We all do it, just some of us stay in the past a little longer because the present ain’t as pretty, we leave yesterday take over, stories of years gone by get the better of us and break us. Triumphs and failures- they are in each and every one of us. We celebrate the triumphs differently, just like we pick ourselves back up different.
You look at that girl or guy who seems to have it all figured out, mister happy go lucky, with the massive smile on their face surrounded by an army of devoted friends, you know the one always matching head to toe in their gym clothes, like their whole life is sparkling. You look and you wish your life away for theirs because they appear so happy, because life looks so damn perfect as if they don't have a worry in the world. Don't kid yourself, everyone has their struggles, we just all deal with them differently. You show me someone who has the perfect life and I’ll show you someone who has wanted to die a few times. For believe me the people who appear the happiest with life all figured out weren’t always that way, they all have a story to tell. They’ve been low and it made them the person they are today, there’s a reason behind that resilient smile. The figured out that’s there’s always a reason to be happy.
We've all been down and out, some lower than others but we're all here to tell the tale or just about. We all have different things to thank for our comebacks. Some people can pin point it to a certain person or moment in their life. Others it might be far more complex. Some it’s the Saturday night drinks with friends who allow us escape or the curry in front of the fire while you watch someone else’s problems on the big screen, even the walk alone through the woods contemplating how things could have been. For me it's always been exercise.
Therapy- Exercise is therapy, it's like the happy hour of the day, you take it away and you see a very different Sarah. It's as simple as this, fit Sarah is happy Sarah, so if you see me chubs and not exercising but still smiling know inside I hate life. We're all great at pretending life's perfect in fear people will think we're soft if we show our true emotions. But just know nobodies invincible and everyone has their dark days and there's no shame in that.
For me I exercise and I train to fight the bad days, the shit emotions, the days I wish I could change and the things I wish I could take back. I don't sit in bed and wallow because it doesn't end well for me. I pick myself up and I put my gym clothes on and every rep I do, every punch I throw is full with emotion I don't want to feel. I run the roads sometimes just so I can empty my thoughts. Sometimes I feel myself hit the bag harder than ever before, fuelled by some shit I don't want to feel. One big fantastic escapism for an hour or two is all you need sometimes.
Find a focus, something that gives life meaning, not a person or a place, not even an object. Find something in yourself that makes you want to fight, something you need to achieve. One step at a time. Learn to challenge yourself and win. Learn to out run the aching in your lungs when you think you can’t finish that last mile, learn to give two fingers to that chocolate bar that makes you hate the weighing scales, learn to look in the mirror and know who you are is enough. Life is one big challenge that starts and ends in your head; only you have the ability to determine your strength.
Failures come and go and that's part of life. Your whole world can fall apart over night. That girl you loved with all your heart is gone or your best friend might hate you, you might not have your place on the soccer team anymore. One failure or five failures doesn't make a whole life of failure. What does is not fighting back, not finding the steps out of the hole, not climbing the ladder, not putting the pieces back together. Pick your pieces up and build them stronger. Everybody needs a comeback story. Everyone needs a reason.