In a world that craves beauty over brains, a world that encourages women to need the attention of a man to feel valued, societies that encourage women to be soft and feminine, rigid to the confines of society, where certain sports are unfeminine and strong is frowned upon, female muscle is ugly. Be the woman who challenges, be the woman who is unbreakable, don't be a pawn in the game, be the queen and change the rules. Don’t be a Kimmy, be a Dana Linn Bailey, and be a force to be reckoned with.
I thought 2016 was a new era where women were less concerned about beauty and more about intellect and hustling but still I see so many girls afraid; afraid to challenge and dare to be whom they want. Accepting society’s definition of achievements for women; I don’t want to be miss beauty bla bla bla, face of some salon or famous cause I sell sex appeal.
I can't get full on biceps and abs of steel because my boyfriend doesn't like that look. My mother doesn't like the thought of her daughter powerlifting. Dad hates the thought of his little girl being punched in the face. My big brother says it's uncool that his little sister can lift heavier than his weak ass. Grandma says cage fighting is for men and no place for a lady. Uncle said women with more muscle mass than men is ugly.
You spot the common denominator? Known of these are your thoughts. Why are women being defined by other people's opinions and norms set by society? There's no need for you to look on in admiration at Ronda Rousey for her fierce and unbreakable persona, Paige Hathaway for her jaw drop muscly physique, Katie Taylor for her achievements and changing the world of ladies boxing- how do you know you can't be the woman other ladies admire? What are you so scared of?
Sitting pretty, painting your face every day isn't going to make you the person you could be. Being pretty is not the rent we pay as a female. You are not here to please others; you are here to create yourself. You will never know how strong you can be or what you can achieve until you become happy in you and stop looking for outside acceptance. Be the girl happy enough in herself to say ‘you know what, screw you, screw you and your small minded opinions’.
There will always be negatives in everything in life if that’s what you go looking for but on the other side there will be so many positives, it just depends which you hold in higher regard. Yes, if you choose routes that aren’t traditionally feminine and girly you’ll get the strange looks and the nasty comments but on the other side of that you will find likeminded people who refuse to be defined by others, people who cherish their craft and stand alone. And let me tell you those nasty comments and narrow-minded opinions serve a purpose, they will be the fuel and stepping stones, they become your motivation to the final goal.
Why do you want to be like the majority? Not everyone can be great, not everyone can be a winner, a champion, a hero. Everyone can be ordinary but that’s boring as hell. Be the girl who goes to the gym and lifts the three hundred pounds while your skinny counter parts love the treadmill. Be the girl who beats up the boys in sparring who couldn’t care less about shellac nails and the latest Kardashian hair extensions. Or how about you be the girl who is winning and breaking limits when the rest are downing pints. Be a wolf when there are countless amounts of sheep.
I’d love to think when I’m 40 years old and it’s too late for me to compete in certain sports that there’ll be more and more girl’s challenging and changing the game. Girls who don’t need anyone to tell them who they are, ladies who don’t want to be restricted by society. They are the queens. Raise little girls to know their worth and not their beauty. You can be sure as hell my nieces know who to pack a punch cause I dragged there asses into gyms I’ve been in and believe me they are three strong independent girls you don’t get to boss. Boss Girls. Strong and articulated.
Strength encourages strength. Empower each other. Be a queen, boss girl, independent and unconcerned with boxes.
“…that’s what I want to do. I want to get out there and I want to show girls it’s ok to have a little bit of muscle, its ok to be strong… Be confident in exactly who you are. The sexist thing a girl possess is confidence… and I rock that shit hard”
-Dana Linn Bailey